Lady Sublime de Sade

Wearing cowgirl boots and a sadistic smile, I am unmistakably both a Southern Lady and a sadist. I live to spank, to discipline, and to impact lives as surely as I impact flesh. I enjoy reddening arses, imposing structure, pushing people beyond their self-imposed limits, and rendering them deliciously weak in exactly the ways they crave. I fulfill My own sadistic desires while fulfilling those of others—a deliberate, consensual symbiosis where everyone wins.

Education, Authority, and Philosophy

Practicing Classical FemDom, I am a Certified Dominatrix, having graduated from The Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy in Los Angeles, where I was mentored and certified by Mistress Damiana Chi, PhD, in the Art and Psychology of Female Domination. I continue My education relentlessly and attend multiple professional classes weekly across BDSM and psychological disciplines from various industry educators leaders.

I am a multidimensional Dominatrix, a multifaceted Disciplinarian, and a Lightworker who plays in the dark. I willingly meet others in their shadow and help them transform pain into growth. While I may refer to Spank Therapy or Impact Therapy within consensual kink contexts, I am not a licensed therapist, and I do not present kink as a replacement for psychotherapy.

My background is rooted in the liberal arts—art, history, and humanities studied across decades. Mental health always comes first. If your mind is not calm and grounded, I will not dominate you. First we steady the nervous system—then I redden your arse.

Discipline Is My Language

Discipline is how I speak love, authority, and change.

I retrain behavior through punishment, funishment, and accountability, always with growth as the goal. Discipline bridges the gap between what you want right now and what you want most. Motivation may spark change, but discipline sustains it.

Merriam Webster defines discipline as:

discipline

/dĭs′ə-plĭn/

noun

1.    Training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement.

2.    Control obtained by enforcing compliance or order.

3.    Controlled behavior resulting from disciplinary training; self-control.

4.    A state of order based on submission to rules and authority.

5.    Punishment intended to correct or train.

6.    A set of rules or methods, as those regulating the practice of a church or monastic order.

7.    A branch of knowledge or teaching.

transitive verb

1.    To train by instruction and practice, as in following rules or developing self-control: synonym: teach.

2.    To punish in order to gain control or enforce obedience. synonym: punish.

3.    To impose order on.

I employ each of these definitions’ methods sprinkled liberally throughout O/our sessions, as needed, to alter your behavior to My acceptance. My clients hate to love it—and love to hate it—exactly as intended.

I do not tolerate stagnancy, repeat offenses, or disobedience. Growth is mandatory, though it is taken slowly. Baby steps forward are still forward, and slow change is the only kind that lasts. Obedience and discipline will guide your path to change.

When I am Dominating, I am High Protocol, Total Power Exchange TPE. Female Led. Female Dominated. I am always in charge. Topping from the bottom is not tolerated and is considered “assholing from the sidelines”. The session will immediately be terminated with no refund of fees. When I am wearing My Domme hat, I expect obedience the first time, every time.

This is My way.

Sadism, Spanking, and Consent

I am a sensual sadist—hands-on, tactile, intentional. I need to touch, strike, and discipline to feel fulfilled, just as My masochistic counterparts need to receive. The fit is precise and mutual.

There is no such thing as “just a spanking.” Even when you want silence, no role play, and no chatter, I make certain you leave not only sore, but steadied—lighter inside, warmed emotionally, and clearer than when you arrived.

I honor boundaries, consent, and safe words without exception. Submission is a gift. I never take it lightly.

Roles, Archetypes, and Presence

I wear many hats, all intentionally balanced: FLR Top, Seductive Sadist, Advisor, and Domme, with a pronounced maternal authority. I am Mother, Queen, Authoritarian, and Seductress—perfectly proportioned and unapologetic.

I am outgoing and extroverted. I can animate any room, rally excitement like a cheerleader, and get conversations moving effortlessly. I love leading groups, organizing events, and helping create a good party.

In consensual adult role play, I am many things: a seductive sadist with red lips, a sweet smile, sassy charm, and a sultry Southern drawl; a stern professor assigning corrective writing; a Boss Lady, Judge, CEO, or corporate authority delivering consequences—sometimes very publicly and without apology.

I become the role I feel that you need Me to be. Every sub and bottom is different, and every session is different. I am not a “cookie-cutter Domme/Top”. One size does not fit all. I customize your spankee experience for you and you alone. No two sessions are the same.

Domestic discipline is one of My specialties. Correction is immediate. No warm-up. No warnings. Missed responsibilities, neglected duties, financial missteps, or ignored instructions are addressed on the spot with whatever implement suits My mood: hairbrush, belt, wooden spoon, sandal, flyswatter, or any convenient pervertible. When negotiated and appropriate, public discipline is a particular delight.

I Spank, and I Know Things

After having heart-to-heart discussions with subs and bottoms, I often tell them information they've never heard before, such as functional health info or stress management skills - tidbits of knowledge, tips, and tricks that help them to manage their crisis, stress, habits, or daily activities in a smarter and healthier way. For most all of U/us, someone who knows U/us well can often understand U/us better than W/we do O/ourselves.

Power Exchange and Lifestyle

I have practiced kink since 1983. Earlier in life, I lived on both sides of the slash and understand submission intimately. With maturity, My desire to submit fell away completely, allowing My Dominant nature to flourish fully.

I am a FemDom and FLR lifestyler. Power exchange is not something I visit—it is how I live. I maintain a part-time consensual Power Exchange relationship with My devoted paladin, GentleEnglishman. Even at a distance, obedience is structured, monitored, and absolute.

I sustain one Female-Led Relationship only. No additional FLRs are available.

I am also in a long-standing, non-FemDom, service-oriented marriage, separate from My kink life, sustained through clear boundaries and mutual respect, and includes all the elements of domestic service without S&M, BDSM, or power exchange. I am most grateful for such care and devotion.

Health, Ethics, and Standards

I practice ethical non-monogamy through strict polyfidelity. Testing, vetting, and approval are mandatory. Both My partner and I are immunocompromised; therefore, negative STI results are required, and unsafe practices are refused outright.

Discipline applies to My life as much as yours. I model exactly what I demand.

Final Authority

I am not a fantasy tailored for convenience. I am exacting, demanding, deeply caring, and intolerant of mediocrity.

If you come to Me, be prepared to change.
Be prepared to work.
Be prepared to be held accountable.

I spank.
I know things.
I discipline.
This is My way.